My life

I’ve written a lot about women’s changing role and the impact those changes have made on me and my family. For all of that knowledge, I am also keenly aware of the changing roles for men and the confusion it has caused them. The men of my father’s generation were as trapped and suffocated by… read more

I am sitting in a small, 10’ x 10’ pool house as I write this. There is a pool, some chairs, lots of greenery and a lemon tree on the other side of the pool. The temperature is warm, but comfortable with a gentle breeze and no humidity. The weather and the view are amazing,… read more

I spent most of my week working on a painting that has challenged me and my abilities. It is the third painting in a series of five and trying to maintain the movement of the piece has been difficult. It’s the type of work that you know you’re growing by doing, but it’s taking me… read more

When a life-long friend called me a few days ago to tell me about her mother’s health issues, it brought out so many memories of my own mother’s struggles in the last few years of her life. As I listened to my friend try to figure out what the best course of care would be,… read more

Most women I know have, at one point in their life, made a list of everything they want in a man. As they go through different phases of their life the list may change, but there’s still usually a list somewhere. The consistent top three for me are: Am I attracted to him? Is he… read more

When my stepfather died a couple of years ago, my family was mildly amused by the obituary he wrote for himself. It was probably the longest obituary the paper had ever published. It was full of all the things that he had done in his life that were important to him. He listed accomplishments and… read more

(This post was originally written in January of 2015. We have since lost my feisty mom to another illness, but I still feel strongly about the importance of self-checks.)  “Every woman needs to know the facts. And the fact is, when it comes to breast cancer, every woman is at risk”. -Debbie Wasserman Schultz Cancer… read more

There is a lot going on in the world around us that keeps me feeling out of balance and alignment. I cannot ignore these things, but I cannot allow these things to take over my life and turn me into a negative person. So, as negative as things feel, I am choosing to focus on… read more

I spend a lot of my time telling other people that they need to leave their comfort zone and stir up some energy. I tell them they need to do this because even if your effort doesn’t bring the desired results, it will lead you to something that will. I tell people to do this… read more

  My sister Claire gave birth to a baby girl in March of 1975. She was born with red hair, brown eyes and personality for miles. Years before the phrase “It takes a village,” was coined, my niece Mary was our family’s community baby. Mary spent a lot of time at our mother’s house and… read more